Today feels like it has been 3 days in one. The constant need for my help gets exhausting sometimes. Between my family and work I swear I go numb to hearing mom or my name. Our older kids went back to their moms today which always proves hard on the youngest who misses his brothers. He is starting to understand better now that he is almost 8 but it is still not easy for him. He tends to be extra crabby the first couple days after they have left, and I assume he is just decompressing from the chaos. As we were finishing up supper tonight my husband got a phone call from one of best friends saying he was sitting on our porch. We never mind when he comes to visit because he is a good guy, but he does have a drinking problem. I always tend to bring him some sort of baked good that I have in the house being a I run a baking business out of our home in addition to having a fully time job and being the youth director for our church. He tells us he has been out on his motorcycle since around 10am so I naturally offer him some supper. Let me tell you if you show up at my house around mealtime you are going to get fed, I don't care who you are. He said no its okay I don't need to eat so I used my mom card and told him not to argue with me and to get in the house. Getting him a plate, he admits he has been out partying most of the day. An even better reason to sit down and eat being you are driving around your motorcycle. I am glad my husband has stepped away from the drinking part of his life because we would not be together if he hadn't. One thing I will not tolerate is a drunk. My dad spent many years of my life that way and even sober he still has the personality of a drunk. I also made the mistake of trying to be in a relationship with one before I met my husband being sure I could change him. Well news flash he is still a drunk even after getting into a car accident where he broke his back. Time is short and precious there is no reason to put yourself in a situation where you are not happy. I wish I could do something for our friend to make him realize this, but I know he has to do it on his time and when he is ready. For now, we just support him and try and call him in the mornings lol because we usually know we can get him before he starts. How do you handle these situations? Is there something in a relationship that would break it for you? A lot of our personal deal breakers come from our childhood environments and once you recoginze this you give yourself the power to say no. Giving yourself the power to stand up for what you need is a wonderful thing. You have the power to make yourself happy and it is a wonderful gift to give yourself!
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